Updated: Aug 13, 2021
In this lifetime, I believe I’ve been given the assignment of inspiring courage. I imagine myself with my little wand, flying around, tapping women on the head (…tink) to give them a dose of courage.
Often times we don't have the trust, imagination, confidence or courage to go after our dreams, or believe that our own lives could be better than what we currently have.
We question what people (especially family and friends) will think, what if we fail like we've never failed before, whether we're good enough to compete with people who have already accomplished what we hope to.
If you believe you live in a world with limited and lacking resources and don't think you have access to the things you really want out of this life, you need a dose of courage.
Courage PROPELS you to go after what you want.
You might know what you want or even what to do, but lack of courage keeps you from taking action.
At the end of last year we went through a few weeks of shifting our mindset from a lack mindset to an abundance mindset. It was a necessary step for those of you who are looking to pursue a heart-based entrepreneurial path and start taking action on it.
If you missed out on that 8 post series, here's where to start: Post #1
Courage is being motivated from the heart to do something brave.
A lack of courage is the difference between living to survive and living a life you truly want. It's making a choice between doing the safe and guaranteed thing (like earning $600 per week) vs doing the thing that feels so big it scares you to death, but the reward is exactly what you want (like earning $600 per day!).
But...there is no courage where there is no confidence. And without self-awareness, confidence is basically inconceivable.
So it's safe to say that confidence grows as you become more self-aware.
Self-awareness is your foundation to everything...and I mean EVERYTHING you want in life.
Several years ago, I went on a journey of forced self-discovery. I say forced because I had no choice based on the way my life was going at the time.
Everything was so still and quiet around me that I was able to hear my thoughts. I noticed a pattern. I would think about what I wanted and then talk myself out of it. Not enough money, not enough time, not secure enough, not guaranteed. My main fear was: what if I choose the wrong path and waste my time and money?
I started to understand how my thoughts affected my moods and behavior (and how that affected other people).
I began to pick up on which of my thoughts and actions didn’t align with my internal values and standards. I valued being free, but yet I kept myself in a box. I valued being authentic and who THE MOST HIGH created me to be, but still I allowed myself to follow a traditional path that someone else carved out for me along with practically everyone else.
I examined my obstacles, or what I perceived as obstacles, so that I could identify and accept my role in them (this was the HARD part). What was I doing or not doing that was contributing to blockages in my finances, health, relationships, etc.? Why was my life in stop and go mode? Why were the things I wanted not flowing?
I knew what I was capable of, but comparing myself to others who had already succeeded kept me from giving it 1000%. The crazy thing is, I was comparing myself to people at the top of their game, with YEARS of experience. I had no idea how those people accomplished what they did—what struggles they went through, what they had to sacrifice to get there, how much effort or time it took, or how much courage they had to muster up to do it.
I took an honest look at my regrets—what I wish I had done, hadn’t done, or done differently. I had to ask myself: What made me not go all the way for myself like I did for the people I once worked for?
In the end of my journey, I realized I had no regrets other than wishing I had taken action sooner! And absolutely everyone goes through feeling scared to take action. Even the people we admire for their ability to make almost anything look effortless.
I understood that all of those perceived obstacles and stagnant periods in my life were during times of mass learning, growth, and self-development. I was GAINING WISDOM.
I could literally look back at every hard stroke of difficulty in my life and see something that helped me become a little more courageous. I began to share my story and plant little seeds of courage in people along the way.
I also realized that I was meant to do something with that wisdom, not just hold on to it. I was divinely guided to give encouragement to the next woman.
It was something that I wanted to do my whole life.
But I wasn’t totally sure because I’ve never done this before. Well, not like this.
It was a HUGE deal because it was going to take a lot of effort to make this happen.
I was headed to give my first motivational speech.
I was finally going to give this a real try.
Being a motivational speaker has been a dream of mine for many years. Training, coaching, guiding and teaching was part of who I was. Inspiring others to do what they're afraid to do is a small piece of my life's work.
It wasn’t going to be “comfortable” going out on a stage, alone, looking out at a crowd of judgmental faces, and making such a plan would come at a cost, of course, but this was something that mattered to me. I decided to just do it.
I needed that ONE experience to give myself an opportunity to prove I could do it so that I would be willing to do it again.
You've probably asked yourself how you're going to achieve whatever it is that you want to be doing in your life right now.
Same as when you’ve studied hard for a test and you’re so confident when you walk into the exam room (I’ve got this!!), you’ll be most confident when you study who you are.
** What do I really want?
** What would I do if I could not fail?
** Which path would I choose if I had the courage?
Once you figure out who you are and you start being it, then others will ask you, "How did you do it?" You’ll become an instant magnet for people who want to do what you’re doing and learn what you’ve learned. You’ll become... a catalyst.
You'll begin to naturally step into the role you were made for when you work from your heart space (a place of raw, not watered down, unfiltered experiences).
That's where courage comes from.
Knowing WHO YOU ARE.
Once you realize you’re a lion, you’ll be confident enough to roar because roaring is what lions do.
I'd love to hear from you. What do you REALLY want to be doing in your life right now? What’s stopping you?
Leave a comment below.
I'm going to sign off here.
Cheers to self-awareness!
And cheers to having greater COURAGE to finally DO IT!!! You're going to be awesome.
Wanauma Graham is a creative and lifestyle entrepreneur, author of "Totally Unstoppable", and creator of BossFreeMedia.com. She's dedicated to helping women work through fear and do something they’ve been inspired to do.