Don't Air Your Dirty Laundry in Public
Updated: Oct 29, 2020
What does air your dirty laundry in public mean? It means displaying your secrets, your chest moves and things that you should really keep private, for all to see. It's like having a virtual clothesline.
We see it every day.
Facebook and Twitter are monstrous platforms for airing dirty laundry. These platforms are like tell-all diaries – giving employers, colleagues, clients, and potential business partners a read-all pass. Be careful what you share online!
Putting your relationship drama on social media.
Criticizing someone who you don't agree with.
Telling someone else's business.
Blasting someone else for their mistakes.
Bitching about other people.
Constant complaining about this, that, and the other.
Poking your nose in other people's business by negative commenting.
Rants about your spouse, ex, boss, or neighbor.
Dragging everyone else into your drama by soliciting comments.
Pouring your guts out to people you don't even know.
It's all bad. You might as well post "I want attention!" on your Facebook status.
As you've seen in the media lately, this behavior can have negative consequences. And - most of us are guilty of at least one moment we wish we could take back. No judgement here.
If your attitude is having technical difficulties, it's best to turn it off and restart. Adding ha-ha to the end won't soften the blow.
There's a difference between airing your dirty laundry and being transparent. It's OK to admit your mistakes, weaknesses and concerns, but you'll want to do it on the right platform, in the right way, at the right time, with the right attitude.
Before posting anything online, ask yourself these three questions:
Why am I posting this?
Will it embarrass me now or later in life?
Does what I'm about to say, truly represent who I am or who I want to be?
Social media and online forums are not private. Even after you use your index finger to click delete, someone may have already read it, saved a copy or taken a screenshot. Once it's out there, you no longer have control. And let's not even talk about a comment or post that goes viral. There's no way to pull back that derailing train. You become completely disempowered.
You'd be shocked at what Facebook knows about you. These online platforms are building behavioral profiles on you with information you willingly hand over every time you post, engage, and share. Without becoming a prude, it's time to protect your reputation, personal brand, and safety, and value your privacy.
When you make the decision to take control of your life, take your chosen path more seriously, and make a change, you may need to step back and enjoy a moment of solitude. Away from social media.
The year prior to launching Your Shitastic Life, I noticed that my newsfeed was full of negative energy. So much drama, tension, and alarming comments. It was overwhelming. I decided to take a break from social media and I couldn't have made a better decision.
Your time away is an opportunity for you to reinvent yourself, refresh your attitude, and gain control. It's time to evaluate the type of relationships you want to build and nurture, and the kind of newsfeed you'd like to see each day. A newsfeed that is humorous and makes you laugh, one that is inspirational, business oriented, empowering, etc. Despite the rise of negativity, scams, and lack of privacy, there's still an upside to social media.
When you reemerge, you'll reemerge as a new, positive, focused, and intentional person. Whichever newsfeed type you choose, you'll be focused on connecting with the right people.
If you need to vent or get a pat on the back, there are more constructive ways to do so. Do it in private with someone you love or trust, or use the right platform to share your message for the upliftment and encouragement of others.
To level up your life, you need to gain control your personal brand. The information you share and post should represent you authentically.
Keep your dirty laundry in the hamper.
All love. No judgement.
Have you ever aired your dirty laundry in public and wish you could go back in time and press delete? How did you handle it? Tell me about it in the comments.
Until the next episode,
Wanauma Graham is a creative and lifestyle entrepreneur, author of "Totally Unstoppable", and creator of BossFreeMedia.com. She's dedicated to helping women work through fear and do something they’ve always wanted to do.
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