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BY WANAUMA GRAHAM

  • Wanauma Graham

Take Ownership of Your Happiness

Updated: Oct 29, 2020

Happiness is our greatest victory, right? It's what we all aim for. We're obsessed! Being happy means that you are content, satisfied, cheerful, in good spirits, and delightful. So, how do you rank on the happiness scale?



I'm not sure there's a such thing as being a little happy vs a lot happy. I'm happy. But if someone put a happiness scale in front of me and I had to pick a number from 1 to 10, 10 being most happy and 1 being the lowest level of happiness, I'd say I'm a solid 8. I'm happy, but I could be happier. I guess I can't imagine that I'm the happiest I'll ever be in this moment. I want more!! Don't you?


I believe that overall happiness and the depth of happiness we feel is under our control to some extent and it's externally triggered. That's why people say things like, "I'll be so happy when...". You may want to smack me for saying this, but some mornings I wake up and I say to myself "I choose to be happy today". I do! That's not to say when things go off the rail as they sometimes do, that I'm "happy" about it. Hahaha. But, my overall happiness doesn't dissipate because I have a problem. I take ownership of my happiness on a daily basis as I mentioned in a recent post: 7 Quick Ways to Make Yourself Happy Today. I don't pass the responsibility on to other people. Sure, I want people in my life to add to my happiness and reciprocate value, but I'm not expecting them to "make" me happy. Does that make sense?


That brings me to another thought. What's the difference between joy and happiness? Stumped? It can be a little confusing because if you look at the definition for happiness, you find joy as its synonym, but it's one thing to have joy and another to be happy. There's a distinct difference. Joy is an internally satisfying feeling on a soul level. It's more of a spiritual thing. Joy brings a sense of peace and contentment with yourself as a human being. Your joy is not going to shift from day to day.


Since joy comes from within and happiness is externally triggered, doesn't it make sense that it is more beneficial to aim for joy and take ownership of happiness? You tell me...


Share your thoughts.


Until next time!







Wanauma Graham is a creative and lifestyle entrepreneur, author of "Totally Unstoppable", and creator of BossFreeMedia.com. She's dedicated to helping women work through fear and do something they’ve been inspired to do.